I’ve got a bone to pick with my TikTok algorithm. Every time I open the app, it’s like a personal reminder from the universe that I’m single. I’m bombarded with relationship content I never asked for - “Manifest your dream partner,” “If your man doesn’t peel your orange, he doesn’t love you,” tarot card readers predicting my ex’s return, and dating coaches dishing out rules for the “talking stage” like it’s the Geneva Convention.
However, during my annual birthday crisis/epiphany last year, I decided to redefine “focusing on myself” and take it to a whole new level - I'm talking PhD levels of deep. But relationships? They’re a different beast entirely - more like a game of Tetris where you’re constantly trying to work through one emotional pile-up after another. Sure, I can increase my chances of meeting someone by going out and being social, but there’s no guarantee I’ll find “the one'. What I can guarantee is that embracing my single years, respecting my feelings, and striving to be my best self is a win-win.