I’m a 30-year-old woman who returned from a stint abroad last year. I lived in a remote town in a developing country and there I met a local man and fell in love. We dated and lived together for almost two years while I was in his country. I didn’t tell anyone in my immediate family about the relationship because I know they wouldn’t have approved. This man asked me to marry him about a month before I left the country and I never gave him an answer.
He’s saving up money to take a huge risk, but you’re not sure you’re actually willing to fill out the visa paperwork, haven’t told your family about him, and have offered him total radio silence on his proposal—not even “I’m not sure what my answer is. I need some time to think about it.
Prudence missed the fact that swinger guy’s only upset because his ego is bruised. He obviously equates appearance w/ being a good lover, which hints at him being selfishly lousy. Also, ‘counselling’ doesn’t fix a desire to punch her in the face nor coercion