: I was picking up food at a restaurant when a young lady approached the counter to retrieve her order. She was wearing a lovely white dress. Unfortunately, her bright, colorful, patterned undies were quite visible through the dress’s fabric.
Miss Manners is all for telling strangers -- kindly and privately -- about wardrobe malfunctions, but in this case, nothing could have been immediately done. It would only have caused embarrassment -- not just for the young lady, but for you, who would have been caught staring at her bottom.: My husband and I are acquainted with an older couple, and the lady often “reminds” me that I am disabled.
In addition, the chance that she is buzzed anytime she interacts with me is more than 50%. Her alcoholism makes her forgetful, but she seems stuck in a pattern of publicly tallying my losses, and I don’t want to spend time with her.I have told her that real friends do not bring up our cares and illnesses. Should I simply tell her not to call me when she’s been drinking that day?Those over-50% odds are not in your favor, and you do not have to put up with a friend who insults you.